I’m here today in large part because of my experiences with the coaches I’ve hired for myself. 

I was stuck. I felt a huge gap between where I was and where I wanted to be, both in my business and my personal life. I’d been running in circles, feeling trapped by circumstances, my own poor decision making and my inescapable scripts. The work I’d been doing at The Improv Co had begun to feel repetitive and meaningless, a maze of my own making.

That first session was actually really uncomfortable for me. The coach asked questions that were direct and uncomfortable – not because they were being rude, but because they forced me to think about and examine a number of assumptions and patterns I’d made to avoid discomfort.

Yet: it was a revelation. I didn’t realize how much of my mental energy was spent spinning in place, wrestling with the same questions and challenges over and over, the ruminations squeezing the life from me. But having a coach—a dedicated, present, and non-judgmental partner, someone willing to listen carefully and brave the discomfort of a pointed question or two—changed the entire dynamic. It was an hour completely devoted to me, my goals, and my growth.

Here’s what I learned that I couldn’t have figured out on my own:

The Power of Perspective

My coach didn’t give me answers. Instead, she asked me powerful questions (“why are you using the word “must” so much?”) that helped me see my situation from an useful new angle. She held up a mirror and gave me the space to truly reflect on my own values, fears, and strengths. It’s one thing to know your limiting beliefs; it’s another to have someone help you disarm them so they lose their power.

Accountability with Compassion

I’m great at making plans for myself, but actually following through? That’s a different story. My coach was that external voice that kept me on track. She didn’t lecture me; she simply reminded me of the commitments I had made to myself. Knowing I had to report back on my progress was the gentle push I needed to stay in action. It was accountability without judgment, which made the difference.

The Value of Being Heard

Most importantly, I learned the profound value of being truly heard. In our busy world, it’s rare to have someone listen to you without an agenda or without trying to fix you. That’s what a good coach does. They create a safe space where you can show up exactly as you are, and that feeling alone is often the start of real change.

My experience as a client made me a better coach. It deepened my empathy and reaffirmed my belief in the process. It’s why I’m so passionate about the work I do today—because I’ve lived it.